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Female Sexual Problems
Lack of sexual desire (Hypnoactive Desire Disorder):
The most common of female sexual problems, they have no great interest in sexual activity. The female completely lacks a interest in sexual matters of all kinds and she won’t actually realize that she’s ‘suffering’ from this. She may even claim that she has never really been interested in sexual activity.
The only time a female will seek help for this, will be on the insistence of someone else. Her attitude will usually be of “I can take it or leave it”. Any other time she might seek help is if her partner is obsessed with something and she would hope to learn how to do it to help their relationship survive.
If there is this sort of problem, a proper gynecological examination is needed, if there is no physical reason for the difficulty e.g. Hormonal, or depleted testosterone level then working with a Psychosexual Dysfunction Specialist will greatly help in this if she really wants the help.
Another one of the common female sexual problems. They can’t achieve an orgasm either during intercourse or masturbation. Anorgasmia takes two forms, Primary and Secondary.
In the Primary Anorgasmia – she has never had an orgasm at all; she doesn’t know what it means or what it feels like or even what all the “fuss is about”. She will at times wonder if she’s ever had one without her knowing about it.
The female may even be aware that ‘something started to happen’, but then had the feeling that is has ‘gone away’ – for some females it is possible to achieve an ‘plateau phase’ but they are unable to go beyond that. Others will experience a pleasant but not so exciting sensation. The individual experiencing some pleasant sensation will be far less likely to be frustrated than the one that suffers from Secondary Anorgasmia.
The female has achieved orgasms in the past but has lost the ability will usually be the one’s who have experienced some sort of trauma or event or guilt. Therapeutic intervention for this is successful in helping the female suffer move past it.
Females suffering from this can easily experience an orgasm through masturbation but not through sexual intercourse. Often this is psychological in nature, but there may also be that there aren’t enough contact or pressure on the pubis for various reasons in body shape and built.
When it is due to physical conditions like – her partner’s penis not being long enough to achieve full penetration, or his body shape doesn’t allow for enough contact, or he suffers from penetration anxiety and so on there isn’t a lot to do about it.
Working with a Psychosexual Dysfunction Specialist may however help alleviate anxiety as they are able to recommend different methods to help improve Oral sex and so on.
Causes a lot of distress for the sufferer, it is when the vaginal muscles spams involuntarily and it makes penetration extremely painful or impossible.
This usually has a psychological cause. After a proper medical examination is done and no physical cause is found, therapeutic work is greatly successful.
Penetration Anxiety will very often result in Vaginismus – there is a very noticeable fear. Penetration Anxiety presents itself in a similar way to Vaginismus – one distinction is that penetration is possible but mainly after prolonged foreplay and lubrication.
Anxiety around penetration inhibits enjoyment and orgasms, it’s not always the case though. At times excitation and arousal increases to such a point that the anxiety abates and the penetration itself produces an intense orgasm.
This condition mostly affects mature women (35 +) and is often thanks to a physical condition, in younger women it is possible that it is due to a psychological problem.
There are a whole host of reasons why the female might not be lubricated – most of them are physiological, this is likely due to a decrease in estrogen and it can cause problems and can be the case in the following situations:
• Sexual guilt/shame (often after an illicit affair)
• Penetration anxiety
• Relationship issues
• After childbirth and while breast feeding
• Menopause and perimenopause
• Radiation and chemotherapy
• Surgical removal of ovaries
• Cigarette smoking
• Decreased sexual activity
There are several medical conditions and situations that can cause vaginal dryness, including some medications, it is recommended that these get ruled out through a medical examination.
Therapy can greatly help reduce problems if there isn’t an organic cause.
Persistent Arousal Syndrome:
Otherwise known as Nymphomania is where the female achieves a profound and rapid sexual arousal but simply cannot find any relief even when she has had an orgasm. The female suffering from this will masturbate frequently, and will seek out anybody who appears sexually able – as well as this may lead to multiple partners often of both sexes.
Sexual addiction or Obsession is likely to be the root of this condition, it rarely responds well to therapy (as they may not want to lose the lowering or the normalization of the sex drive). This condition can be helped ONLY if the person really wants to resolve it.
Is the onset of nausea almost immediately after they have had intercourse, although actual vomiting doesn’t occur frequently. When the female experiences it regularly, there is almost always some psychological origin although some medical conditions can cause it too. It responds well to therapy.
Physical conditions that cause this response is usually a hiatus hernia, a medical check is necessary.
With Hyper – Orgasmia an orgasm can occur with little or no physical stimulation, the orgasms will occur frequently and often repeatedly. The condition is hardly considered as a problem – usually the sufferer will avoid resolving the symptom. There are cases when someone will present for therapy, especially if there is shame involved.
The only time there would be a true problem is if the Shame and Guilt produces a problem due to upbringing, or the criticism of a prudish partner – if this is the case, it can lead to Anorgasmia.
No solution for this condition is offered since natural resistance to losing even a small amount of the pleasure of sexual climax is robustly resisted as a rule. If you decide to seek help for this it is best to consult with a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist or if you have faith in a Psychosexual Therapist, then it is worth speaking to one.
Is when there is pain in the genitals during sexual intercourse, and at times can be associated with other conditions like Penetration Anxiety and Vaginismus – it can be considered to be an arousal disorder and responds really well to therapy/
Many times though, it has a medical/gynecological source, the condition cystitis is a common source of discomfort for the female suffering from this – along with Vestivulitis and Vulvadinia as well as some other S.T.D’s.
After a thorough medial examination has been carried out and no physical source of the problem has been found, you are then able to have therapy. Your Psychosexual Dysfunction Specialist will be able to give you guidelines and methods to help in this as well as support you on a emotional journey. Many times Pain control methods and medical meditation are successful in helping with this condition.
Sexual Aversion Disorder:
An individual with Sexual Aversion Disorder will do whatever they can to avoid any genital contact during sexual behaviour, if their partner where to force the issue it would result in the person getting severely angry. This condition’s roots are psychological. There may be powerful aversion to body – fluids and even a belief that sexual contact is unhygienic.
This condition can be triggered by traumas like rape or forced sexual contact.
A pathological aversion to any form of sexual activity in severe cases; great anger can be triggered if there are attempts to force the issue. The best way forward would be to be part of a therapeutic program to resolve the underlying psychological stress.
Sexual abuse/rape of any kind will usually leave a long lasting negative imprint on the person who has endured this. Of all the female sexual problems it is important to find help to resolve it as soon as possible.
The aftermath of any sexual abuse, no matter how long ago it has happened is extensive. It will cause trauma and all kinds of unwanted behaviours and feelings in every area of a person”s life.
It is therefore imperative that you seek the correct help to stop it from further upsetting your life. It is important to know that you don’t have to suffer in silence and there are wonderful methods out there that will successfully help you to have a normal and happy life.
I myself had endured sexual abuse from a very young age and can tell you that I am by no means a victim, nor am I a survivor but rather a conqueror and that is what I teach all my clients that have experienced this horrific pain.
If you have female sexual problems and they are psychological or you need to discuss it in confidence before embarking on therapy please get in touch.